Reception Psychologist

2022-06-04 17:00:03 About children, parents and their self-worth

Children instantly read the behaviour of adults.

If the adults who are important to them behave in a certain way, the child will also use this model. There is no point in telling a child to read a book if you don't do it yourself.

With self-esteem this scheme also works. You can say every morning, "You are the smartest, the most beautiful and the strongest," but if a parent behaves like an incompetent victim, the child will repeat his behavior.

Why does it work this way and not that way? Let me explain.

"The world is safe", "you can trust the world", "you can openly express yourself", "you can be yourself" these are the basic lessons a child ideally receives from his parents.

It's important for them to see that they have a strong adult in front of them who
can protect him
can protect himself

An insecure parent undermines the child's confidence. Their behavior makes the child feel unprotected, as if no one can stand up for them. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-03 19:00:10 The psychology of a BORE

A bore is an annoying person who whines, nags, annoys people with petty nagging, lectures or questions that make you gag

They have no idea whether other people are involved in the conversation, they don't care. Such people are completely unable to read body language. They keep ranting even though their interlocutor's body language is screaming at them, "I'm not interested!!!!"

Bore people are boring people who don't know how to tell a story.
And this skill is essential in order to pique the interest of others. And it shouldn't just be a good story, you should put your heart and soul into it.

They are incapable of including other people in communication.
Most of the time they prefer to present their own point of view, going into too much detail that no one is interested in. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-03 17:00:08 Visualization secrets

Sports psychologists claim that visualization helps improve athletes' performance, overcome fear and recover faster from injury.
It helps doctors avoid mistakes, police officers feel less stress, and musicians play faster and better.

Scientists have also discovered that the brain doesn't separate what happens in the imagination from what happens in reality.

When you remember something or imagine your future actions, it releases the same chemicals as in a real situation. Your brain behaves the same way and it doesn't matter if you experience the event in reality or just imagine it.

Visualization stimulates the reticular activation system, an area in the brain that works as a filter of information and allows you to notice only what is important to you.

That's why when you start thinking about a new job or a new client, suddenly opportunities pop up for you. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-02 19:00:04 You won't get everything in the world: focus on what you are really good at

Life is all about compromise. You sacrifice one thing to get another, and you can't have both together. Accept this. You can achieve more in life if you focus on doing one thing really, really well.

Most people choose their career at the turn of their twenties, and like so many other choices made, this one often turns out to be the wrong one.

It takes years to find what we're really good at and enjoy. But it's better to focus on your core strengths and maximise them year after year than to excel halfway through something else.

Set aside what other people think and identify your natural strengths, your passion, and then build your life around that. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-02 17:00:03 What does jealousy mean?

Many people think that jealousy is the best proof of love . We seem to show that we care about our partner, that we are afraid of losing them. On the other hand, we feel that our partner's love is a prize to compete with the rest of the world for.

If we relegate jealousy as the main indicator of feelings, we are committing a substitution. Love, in which we are totally absorbed by the other person, becomes an addiction.

Trying to attach to him or her is a consequence of a deep sense of insecurity. If we claim all the attention of the other, it may indicate that we failed to form a sense of wholeness, of self-sufficiency as a child.

Experiencing mild jealousy is natural. But make sure that it does not escalate into control. The more you bind a person to yourself, the more he will actively try to break free.

But if you're seriously convinced that without your control he'll leave you for someone else, ask yourself the question: Do you really want that person around? Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-01 19:00:08 Sleeping for 5 hours

You can sleep for five hours, but your body won't be able to function properly.

According to a 2018 study involving more than 10,000 people, your body's ability to function is reduced if you don't get more than seven to eight hours of sleep.

You've probably heard of people who sleep just four to five hours and not only feel great, but also become very successful. However, unfortunately, such people are very few and it is very rare and peculiar to the body.

The symptoms of sleep deprivation are drowsiness, inability to concentrate, memory problems, lack of energy and immunity, hallucinations (in extreme cases).

Sleeping less than 7-8 hours increases the risk of hypertension, depression, obesity and cognitive decline. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-06-01 17:00:06 The easiest way to realize exactly what is happening to you is to try to tell it. Formulate it out loud

You can tell yourself, even by looking in the mirror, out the window, running water... The main thing is to do it out loud

The shortest conversation is usually much more effective than long hours of silent reflection.

It clears your head and puts everything in its place. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-05-31 19:00:04 The more you avoid difficulties, the harder it is in life

Physical exercise is hard. But if you don't do it, over time your health will start to fail and life will become harder and more costly.

Uncomfortable conversations and conflicts are difficult. But if you avoid them for a long time, things will end up getting worse and more neglected.

Studying and working are hard. But it's much harder to live when you don't have any professional skills.

That's the paradox, guys.

If you choose the easy life, you get the hard one. And vice versa. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-05-31 17:00:03 Don't give in to manipulation

Cast aside guilt
Dexterous manipulators know how to induce guilt in their victims in order to get the best out of the situation.
Did you hurt someone's feelings? Did you hurt the other person's feelings? That's it, now the "offended victim" will try to squeeze the maximum out of the situation

Respond appropriately to compliments
People may admire you for your ability to communicate, having a steady income or for having a car. However, these praises may be followed by requests to introduce you to the right person, to lend you money or to give you a lift home Открыть/Комментировать

2022-05-30 19:00:12 Universe 25

Four mice were placed in a mouse paradise with unlimited food and drink and no dangers at all.

In these conditions, the mice began to multiply rapidly. When their number had reached 600, the old and new generations began to compete with each other. The first "outcast" mice appeared and suffered from the rest. The males became passive and the females aggressive. The population began to dwindle.

Eventually, handsome males appeared. They gave up fighting and fighting for females, they only ate, drank and slept. Single females appeared, who stopped giving birth and the rest killed the cubs. The mice began to practice homosexuality and cannibalism.

After 18 months of the experiment, the last inhabitant of the mouse civilization died.

The experiment was called 'Universe-25' because it was conducted 25 times and always ended in the same tragic way.

General or personal happiness cannot be the purpose of life, it is a by-product. Only movement and development as processes are the meaning of life. Открыть/Комментировать