Reception Psychologist

2022-04-11 19:00:09 What do people talk about?

People who speak ill of themselves or others subconsciously need approval. Otherwise they feel insecure and insignificant. Have low self-esteem.

People who complain often, seeking help. Irresponsible. They have been given a route since childhood, but now that the guide is not there, they don't know what to do.

They are insecure and look for the easy way out. Such people are capable of whining for life. Without any solutions. They tend to follow a confident and strong person.

People who talk enthusiastically about others are the happiest. They don't compare themselves. They don't feel bad if there is someone better. And they don't take advantage of others. Such a person is nice and rarely angry.

And these are just some of the things you can say about a person by only paying attention to what they are saying.

The topic could go on forever, but we have covered the main types of people you meet in everyday life. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-11 17:00:08 What should be kept secret? Advice from wise men.

The first thing to keep secret, the sages say, is your far-reaching plans. Keep silent until the plan is fulfilled.

Not only are any of our ideas less than perfect, they have plenty of weaknesses that are very easy to hit and ruin everything.

The second thing the sages recommend is not to share the secret about your charity. A good deed is very rare in this world, and that is why it should be guarded like the apple of your eye.

Don't praise yourself for good deeds. Pride will immediately see and take away all the good that has come as a result of that charity.

Don't talk about your domestic conflicts or your family life in general.
Remember: the less you talk about problems in your family, the stronger and more stable it will be.

A quarrel is to get rid of the negative energy that has accumulated during communication. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-10 19:00:04 Why do we sabotage our own decisions?

There is only one reason

Man does not strive for the best, but for the familiar.

One of the important tasks of our psyche is to maintain internal stability in an external volatile world.

We strive for what is clear, close, familiar. Because a new experience is always the unknown, and facing it can be difficult and scary.

Alas, this sometimes plays against us, because sometimes what we are most familiar with are not the most constructive and sometimes destructive ways of living.

For example, some people repeat the fate of their parents because unconsciously (and sometimes consciously) they seek to reproduce the picture of their childhood in adulthood. Everything we learnt as a child in our family, we take as the conventional norm.

What to do: Examine your family scenarios on your own or with the help of a professional, look at them from the perspective of your adult experience and slowly start to change them consciously. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-10 17:00:01 Self-love is our relationship with ourselves

We often look for love and warmth in others, but all they can give us is a reflection of our own attitude towards ourselves.

Therefore, in order to move forward, we first need to improve the most important relationship of all - our relationship with ourselves.

Absolutely everyone has the right to love themselves. There is no selfishness in this.

Loving yourself is about supporting yourself and accepting your emotions.

Love yourself in all forms and cultivate this capacity.

Look into your heart and soul-that is all that matters at this moment Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-09 18:00:03 Versatile activities for a smart brain

The fact is that different types of activities engage different areas of the brain, different senses, have different levels of difficulty and require different cognitive and motor abilities. And that really develops the brain. And, as a bonus, it makes your life more fulfilling.

You don't have to become a pro at all of them, just incorporate them into your life.

For example:

playing musical instruments
singing
different sports: cycling, fitness, dancing, running
board games
Travelling, camping, outdoor activities
Reading different genres of books and watching different genres of films
Listening to music of various genres
aromatherapy
cookery

What for? Apart from the trivial pleasures of life - to maintain your cognitive abilities at an adequate level until old age.

The more varied your sensory, emotional and intellectual experiences, the better your brain works. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-09 16:00:03 Skills for building healthy relationships

Learn to talk about your needs

Remember that you both have needs and they are all important. Learn to talk clearly about your own and listen to others' needs. Then there is a better chance that both of you will be satisfied. Also, this skill helps you make decisions together.

Remember, when you appreciate each other's needs and don't hesitate to talk about them, there are fewer quarrels and misunderstandings.

Develop this skill to understand your partner and respond appropriately. Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-08 19:00:02 About the person being thanked

Thankfulness raises one's level of importance, gives strength and enthusiasm.

Confirms that you have done something necessary and important for someone else. Increases life satisfaction, makes you feel good.

Receiving gratitude feels good, as a result:

communication between people increases
communication becomes closer
increases the desire to communicate in the future
enhances relationship with people
contributes to career success

In summary, giving thanks is good for physical health, mental health, friendships and working relationships.

Giving thanks supports the "give and take" balance, i.e. if you have done a good deed and have not given thanks, the balance is slightly broken, then a little more and more, which leads to strained relationships, resentment and alienation.

But we want to live in a good atmosphere.
So do good and be grateful Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-08 17:00:02 Remember to say THANK YOU

Gratitude is the real key to happiness. Life doesn't get any easier, but we can become stronger by paying more attention to the little things

Why be thankful? From a psychological point of view.

In fact, it is a very deep not only psychological but also philosophical question. Expressed sincere gratitude generates productive, positive energy. And this energy positively influences both the one who gives thanks and the one who receives thanks.

In psychological practice gratitude is used as a resource state, reduces symptoms of depression, reduces anxiety, and thereby strengthens health.

In the morning, prayer, or giving thanks to the world, the universe, sets us up for a positive day. And we know about the power of psychological attitudes, how you tune up, so the day will go.

Look around you: everything around you can be a real source of positive thoughts.

Make a "List of Pleasant Things" and write down everything that gives you pleasure Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-07 19:00:08 About choice
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A wise man decided to teach his young follower a lesson.
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- Look around; there are many blue objects in the room. Take note of them all.
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The student looked around and nodded. The old man continued:
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- Now close your eyes and list all the yellow objects.

The disciple became indignant:

- I didn't notice a single yellow thing, because you told me to remember the blue ones!

The sage shrugged his shoulders:

- Open your eyes. Look how many yellow subjects there are. The point is that you only see what you are specifically looking for. It is the only thing that will be remembered by you and will accompany you through life.

If you only look for bad things, they will happen to you. You will readily accept the confirmation of your fears and wait for the same thing to happen. If you look only for the good, you will find the good and you will continue to attract the best into your environment. All you risk in this case is to be disappointed from time to time.

Without that, there is no life Открыть/Комментировать

2022-04-07 17:00:03 Never promise anything

Fulfilling someone's request is a great groundwork for developing a relationship.
And we have to be helpful to strengthen existing contacts.

But when you are asked to promise something... When fulfilling even a small request, be diplomatic, say "I'll try/do my best, etc."

You don't want to fall into the category of people who don't keep their promises, do you?
Don't get caught up in that hook! Открыть/Комментировать