It doesn't matter if it's your woman or your wife. If she is with you, then she has chosen you
A woman can't be with a man for the pleasures of the flesh.
She chooses her life partner first and foremost, even if your romance did not involve grand plans.
And if her choice is you, then she sees you at least: a friend, a brother, a husband, a pillar, a shoulder. So you have the core for the sake of which women forgive almost all the mistakes of men. She clings to her choice as the last straw, because with you she has all the dreams and desires.
And it's not the ring on her finger, nor her status that makes her yours, but only her voluntary desire, out of a million to see only you by her side and forgive all that you do sometimes with your bad head.
