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2021-03-29 22:14:42 “To quote Viktor Frankl, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.” What a mind of calmness and clarity does is to increase that space for us.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:24:25 “Matthieu Ricard defines happiness as “a deep sense of flourishing that arises from an exceptionally healthy mind … not a mere pleasurable feeling, a fleeting emotion, or a mood, but an optimal state of being.”

And that optimal state of being is “a profound emotional balance struck by a subtle understanding of how the mind functions.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:20:12 “Emotional intelligence makes people better leaders. Most of us understand it intuitively based on our day-to-day experience interacting with those whom we lead and those who lead us. There are also studies that back up our intuition with scientific evidence. For example, Goleman reported an analysis that shows emotional competencies to make up to 80 to 100 percent of the distinguishing competencies of outstanding leaders.

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What I found surprising was this is true even in the U.S. Navy. Another study by leadership expert Wallace Bachman showed that the most effective U.S. Navy commanders are “more positive and outgoing, more emotionally expressive and dramatic, warmer and more sociable (including smiling more), friendlier and more democratic, more cooperative, more likable and ‘fun to be with,’ more appreciative and trustful, and even gentler than those who were merely average.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:17:22 “What surprised me was the report that this is true even for individual contributors in the tech sector, namely engineers like me whom you might expect to succeed purely on intellectual prowess. According to a study, the top six competencies that distinguish star performers from average performers in the tech sector are (in this order):
 
1. Strong achievement drive and high achievement standards
 
2. Ability to influence
 
3. Conceptual thinking
 
4. Analytical ability
 
5. Initiative in taking on challenges
 
6. Self-confidence
 
Of the top six, only two (conceptual thinking and analytical ability) are purely intellectual competencies. The other four, including the top two, are emotional competencies.
Being strong in emotional intelligence can help everyone become outstanding at work, even engineers.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:17:07 “In the context of the work environment, emotional intelligence enables three important skill sets: stellar work performance, outstanding leadership, and the ability to create the conditions for happiness" Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:10:10 “Goleman adds a very useful structure to emotional intelligence by classifying it into five domains. They are:
 
1. Self-awareness: Knowledge of one’s internal states, preferences, resources, and intuitions
 
2. Self-regulation: Management of one’s internal states, impulses, and resources
 
3. Motivation: Emotional tendencies that guide or facilitate reaching goals
 
4. Empathy: Awareness of others’ feelings, needs, and concerns
 
5. Social skills: Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:09:20 “... emotional competencies are not innate talents; they are learned abilities. In other words, emotional competencies are something you can deliberately acquire with practice.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:08:37 “The best definition of emotional intelligence comes from the two men widely regarded as the fathers of its theoretical framework, Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer. They define emotional intelligence as:
 
The ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:04:34 “Attention Training
 
Attention is the basis of all higher cognitive and emotional abilities. Therefore, any curriculum for training emotional intelligence has to begin with attention training. The idea is to train attention to create a quality of mind that is calm and clear at the same time. That quality of mind forms the foundation for emotional intelligence.


Self-Knowledge and Self-Mastery
 
Use your trained attention to create high-resolution perception into your own cognitive and emotive processes. With that, you become able to observe your thought stream and the process of emotion with high clarity, and to do so objectively from a third-person perspective. Once you can do that, you create the type of deep self-knowledge that eventually enables self-mastery.


Creating Useful Mental Habits
 
Imagine whenever you meet anybody, your habitual, instinctive first thought is, I wish for this person to be happy. Having such habits changes everything at work, because this sincere goodwill is picked up unconsciously by others, and you create the type of trust that leads to highly productive collaborations. Such habits can be volitionally trained.” Открыть/Комментировать

2021-03-28 21:03:55 “Search Inside Yourself works in three steps:
 
1. Attention training
 
2. Self-knowledge and self-mastery
 
3. Creating useful mental habits” Открыть/Комментировать